It can be a challenge at times for me to always “practice what I preach”. What I mean by that is, we are all human! The key to what I teach though is to enable individuals to have the skills necessary to “flip” the negative emotion that is dragging them down. We can do that in various way and certainly it is going to be a different strategy from person to person. I am not immune to this process. There will always come a time where I have to do a flip.
Here’s how it happens for me. An event happens (either real life or latching on to a negative thought pattern that goes wildly out of control), then I literally can FEEL myself stepping from one emotion to the next DOWN the ladder of emotions (recall, we are all human, to live in bliss ALL the time is EXHAUSTING!). Then I wallow! Woe is me! Waaaa! A full on PITY PARTY and I am the STAR!! Then I get really annoyed with myself because it isn’t any fun to hang out in that space for very long. My mood spreads to my kids because as you know Moods are Contagious then it goes from a party of one to a full on disaster. Ever host a party in high school and then the whole town seems to show up and goes out of control? Ya, that!
And then I take a step back, take a few breaths, teach a dance class. I do SOMETHING, ANYTHING that boosts my mood even a little bit.
This time around I decided to check in with my kids (post dance class) and asked them this question.
“What do YOU need t0 feel less stressed?” And their answers were not at all what I expected they would be.
My son was the first to answer and this is what he said…
“Having a Dad”
“More family dinners”
Let me point out here that my son is 10 years old. 10. And he wants to weight train? How cool is that? I wish there was a Bull Dog Gym for kids here in Victoria because I would love that for him. The personal trainer in me will come up with something though.
And here is what my daughter said…
“More family dinners”
“More family time on the weekends (with compromises from each of us in relation to what we do).
Do I have great kids or what? It was a clear reminder that despite my misgivings and flaws, my ups and my downs, that I am doing pretty OK by my kids. My stepping back this time and focusing on my children and what their needs are was what we needed as a family. We had a great family meeting, we all feel better and I am back up that ladder of emotions (and my kids too for that matter). My point here is that we all have points where things don’t go the way we want and we get get stressed out, angry, depressed – whatever emotion you tend to get addicted to but it doesn’t mean you have to STAY there. Here is a quick and easy way to make the step to feeling better.
1) Recognize where you are at right now
2) Honor your feelings – they are there, no point in avoiding them!
3) Do something. ANYTHING that gives you the HAPPY feeling. We aren’t talking skipping on clouds and jumping rainbows here. Just find something that makes you smile. Visit a chip truck (although not here on Vancouver Island!), turn on your fav song and ROCK IT OUT, walk out side and spend 5 min soaking in the sun. You will FEEL your energy and mood start to shift.
Once you feel better, even if just a little bit, you will be able to step back and take a different perspective on your situation.
Until next time,
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I am so happy to announce that I will be joining the Synergy Wellness Team in Victoria! I will be personal training and providing Bowen therapy along with a Groove class. As well, I will be joining Sage and Stone and offering Groove and Zumba classes. What a whirlwind this move has been, but I am so happy to be here. The city is beautiful and the people are amazing.
In the coming months I will be offering Concussion Therapy, Cancer Rehabilitation programs, dance fitness and Yoga/yogatherapy.